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Family history

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girl and stethoscopeAt a doctor’s appointment with our youngest recently, I was asked whether there was any family history of a relatively minor ailment.  It’s a fairly standard question in a lot of doctor-patient conversations.  I know what’s lurking in my family’s medical history but I’m less familiar with our children’s. This is not because information was withheld or because I wasn’t paying attention ; ) but because the medical information that is shared at the time of placement tends to focus on things that would have a more immediate impact on your child’s health with less focus on more general health information.

There are a few ways I could respond – make something up, or be a bit vague, or explain why I don’t know the answer – I usually opt for a brief explanation…”‘I’m not sure, x is adopted”. But it all depends on who is asking and the context. We’ve always been open in how we talk about adoption with our children and this definitely helps in situations like this.

My youngest’s response to this exchange? She took great delight in correcting me… “Mum, we are ALL adopted…” making a point of including her brothers.

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Written by adoptresources

May 30, 2011 at 5:10 pm

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  1. I think that is a lovely response and it gave me a feeling of belonging and everyone being the same in her family. It is good that she is proud of it.

    Naomi

    May 31, 2011 at 9:59 am

    • Thanks Naomi – it was one of those funny ‘oh for goodness sake Mum’ moments. It’s definitely one of those situations where adoption and this shared history is brought into normal day to day stuff…

      adoptresources

      May 31, 2011 at 10:50 am


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