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Support over the summer…

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summer written in the sandSummertime is associated with relaxing, taking time off, having fun and recharging batteries. But it often doesn’t live up to the expectations, especially for those of us who are parents to children who’ve experienced early neglect or trauma. The thought of all that free time can seem like a dream come true for some kids but ironically, the lack of familiar routine can lead to more confusion and the occasional meltdowns.

I’ve written about some tips and strategies that can help over the holiday season: Surviving the summer holidaysChecking inA weekend away

For a bit of extra support, this summer I’m running an online ‘Adoption summercamp’. It’s a 6 week programme that can work around your schedule and includes:

  • weekly video blogs and teleseminars to introduce the topic for each week and cover some key points on attachment and parenting and look at tips and strategies for dealing with issues that are important for you.
  • a weekly group Q&A call for you to discuss any issues with me
  • downloads of supporting materials
  • access to all the recordings to listen to/watch when it suits you best.

rabbit figures in classroom settingOver the 6 weeks we’ll cover:

  • finding your holiday friendly routine
  • troubleshooting – what are your challenges
  • working on what’s behind the behaviour
  • tools and strategies
  • the ‘back to school’ transition
  • looking after yourself

There are some bonuses for early birds who register before 9am on 18th July, including your first week for free, a copy of the Boosting Self Esteem in Adoption ebook and, for the first 5 who register, a one-to-one call for more individual attention.

I’m really looking forward to running the course and hope that you’ll join me for a bit of extra support over the holidays… I’m sending out more info later today, in the meantime, email or comment below if you’ve any queries.

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July 15, 2011 at 3:52 pm

Holiday time, again!

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It’s school holiday time again, and most children in the UK are only at school for about 6 days this month, and not even that for some!

I’ve blogged about holiday times before and no matter the holiday season – summer, festive season, even unplanned breaks due to the weather – the main message is to build a bit of routine and predictability into your holiday time.

You don’t have to be too rigid but lots of the stress and anxiety for children (and so lots of the difficult behaviour) can be reduced by taking away the stress of not knowing what’s happening next. Involve the kids in planning what’s happening, schedule in some free time (with suggestions for what can be put in the free time) and if family visits are part of your holiday think ahead and build in some coping strategies for any of the challenges that might crop up!

My favourite top tip for holiday (and not holiday) time is to use visual planners to make it easier if your child finds it hard to process information…

…and my other one is don’t worry if it doesn’t go to plan!

What are your coping strategies for school holidays? Hope you have a fab time…

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April 13, 2011 at 12:06 pm

Back to school…

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It doesn’t seem that long since my summer holiday post and now we’re into our second week back at school with the novelty of getting organised for school fast wearing off…

School requires a whole host of skills – social skills, the ability to listen and concentrate, language processing, talking and communicating. Then there’s taking care of yourself physically, eating the right things at the right time and being able to organise yourself for different classes/lessons.

Even writing, which can seem like second nature to most of us, requires so many individual skills for someone in the early learning stages…

  • the ability to hold a pen or a pencil
  • how to form the shape of the letter
  • what the letter represents
  • how it fits with other letters to spell a word
  • how words fit together to make up a sentence

So it’s not surprising that going to school can send some children’s stress levels sky high, in turn affecting relationships at home. The tasks involved in the  journey from bed to breakfast to school and from school to home/activity, mealtime and bed can provide various opportunities for stand-offs throughout the day for children who find school difficult.

Top tips for helping ease back into the school term…

  • the all important routine, keeping things predictable and following the same format to get ready for school and for afterschool activities and homework
  • pay attention to basic physical needs like sleep and diet – it’s amazing the impact of being tired and low energy levels
  • time healthy snacks for the return from school so that energy dips don’t affect homework/activity time
  • ask your child about school, notice things and offer help if you think it’s needed. It’s  important to be aware of any specific things that might be troubling your child – bullying, learning difficulties etc and act to find solutions or support early on
  • use calenders and planners to map out the week so that kids know where they are going and when – visual cues are helpful especially if things can change from week to week – I like the Organised Mum weekly planner (you can win one by entering the prize draw below).

None of these tips are rocket science but they can make the transition from holidays to school a bit easier. I’d love to hear your tips for making term time easier…

To win a fab weekly planner leave a comment or email info@adoptresources.co.uk.

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August 24, 2010 at 10:42 pm

Surviving the summer holidays…

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This article features in my Summer newsletter, but just in case you’ve not signed up to receive the newsletter, I thought I’d post it here too…

Summertime… We’re now in the middle of our school holidays, some of you might be just at the beginning… I like the fact that we don’t have to be quite so organised during the holidays but they can also be a bit of a challenge in terms of keeping everyone occupied without spending a fortune and also mediating/refereeing with family members for more hours of the day than usual!!

For some children, not having the structure of the school day can be unsettling, especially if they have a poor grasp of the concept of time – something a lot of adopted and fostered children have problems with. It is often the children that crave freedom that need the structure put in place for them… If this is your child, planning ahead or building a regular structure into the day can help.

You don’t need to be too rigid but just giving a framework to the day by splitting it into chunks can help. Visual planners are good for this, especially when your child finds it difficult to remember lots of information. There’s loads around, I spotted this online planner via a @netmums tweet, you can print it off and display it where the family can see it. Involving the family in the planning can help too.

Also worth a look… Naomi Richards aka the kid’s coach (another twitter connection) has written a fab blog on top tips for the summer holidays.

Enjoy the summer, whatever you’ve planned…

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July 30, 2010 at 11:02 am